How to succeed in every aspect of your life.

A very common wisdom many people hold is that for well-being and reducing conflict and stress, you’ve got to take it easy with work & professional life and to focus in so called “things that really matters” (happiness, family and the likes). Conversely, to have a significant impact on the world and be successful by prevailing societal standards, and achieve merits you’ve got to put work above pretty much everything else in your life.That’s conflicting and confusing, especially for people who want it all , as this reasoning  is zero-sum thinking.

But Is it really true? that you can only get one at expense of other?

For the last three months i discovered that this “thinking”  runs counter to what I have observed from  over 30 biographies, talks and first hand interviews with people. There are many truly successful people in our midst who have achieved greatness not by forsaking their families, communities, and private selves, but, rather, by embracing these parts of their lives. They have found creative ways to reduce conflict and replace it with a sense of harmony between work and the rest of life. Not only does this reduce stress and its discontents, it is the very source of the strength that enables their admirable accomplishments.

Here is a truth on how to harness the passions and powers of the various parts of your life and bring them together to achieve what SD. Friedman call “four-way wins” — actions that result in life being better in all four domains, perhaps not all at once, but over the course of a lifetime.

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How to get and keep people’s attention

 

  1. Pull the rug out from under them. Tell them something so surprising that it overturns their schema of how things work.
  2. Create a mystery. The Heaths tell the story of a professor named Robert Cialdini, who studied popular science books and analyzed the way they engaged their audience. He found books that presented the scientific question as a mystery to be very effective. Cialdini started applying what he learned to his teaching – presenting a mystery at the beginning of each class and revealing the answer at the end. This approach was so successful that when he ran overtime, students refused to leave until he revealed the answer.
  3. Give your audience enough information to create a gap. “Gaps start with knowledge,” say the Heaths. Give enough context to make the audience care, and then present the question.

— Livia Blackburne (2010) “How to get (and keep) people’s attention”

It’s a fast reading, and she also hints for a book, Made To Stick. The post can easily be summarized with another sentence from it: “The easiest way to get attention is surprise.”.

It’s interesting in relation to my work both on presentations and on writing. I have surely a lot to learn about those topics.

Identity and Collaboration to Avoid Burnout

Burnout
A state of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion caused by long-term stress or having worked in a physically or emotionally draining role for a long time.

The topic of burning out is difficult because it’s so closely aligned to a lot of the things that are valued as positive in most of the current professional environments. “Work hard” can shift easily in “Burned out”.

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The heavy feedback of the vocal minority

At least 20% of the comments left on the Guardian website each month come from only 2,600 user accounts, who together make up just 0.0037% of the Guardian’s declared monthly audience.
— Belam M. (2012) The Guardian publishes stats via Daring Fireball

This is exactly the reason why any gathered feedback must be balanced with other data points, like hard data from analytics.

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The six factors of a great leader

I read today a post by Jeremy Dean that lists the factors that make a great leader.

A good leader has these four factors (Hogan, Kaiser, 2005):

  1. Decisiveness: in case of uncertainity, they make decisions and take responsibility.
  2. Competence: they are skilled and can create good teams.
  3. Integrity: they are able to create deep trustworthy relationships.
  4. Vision: they are able to see both short term and long term, seduce and inspire.

But to reach the next level and be a great leader, there are two more (Collins, 2001): Continue reading “The six factors of a great leader”

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