A very common wisdom many people hold is that for well-being and reducing conflict and stress, you’ve got to take it easy with work & professional life and to focus in so called “things that really matters” (happiness, family and the likes). Conversely, to have a significant impact on the world and be successful by prevailing societal standards, and achieve merits you’ve got to put work above pretty much everything else in your life.That’s conflicting and confusing, especially for people who want it all , as this reasoning is zero-sum thinking.
But Is it really true? that you can only get one at expense of other?
For the last three months i discovered that this “thinking” runs counter to what I have observed from over 30 biographies, talks and first hand interviews with people. There are many truly successful people in our midst who have achieved greatness not by forsaking their families, communities, and private selves, but, rather, by embracing these parts of their lives. They have found creative ways to reduce conflict and replace it with a sense of harmony between work and the rest of life. Not only does this reduce stress and its discontents, it is the very source of the strength that enables their admirable accomplishments.
Here is a truth on how to harness the passions and powers of the various parts of your life and bring them together to achieve what SD. Friedman call “four-way wins” — actions that result in life being better in all four domains, perhaps not all at once, but over the course of a lifetime.