Matters held dear to the heart

Definitely going to ponder more on this though .. ..

The Eternals

Holla! Amigo, it’s time we meet again and have our serious talk. Talking less welcome on board and enjoy the view.

Love conquers all! The saying goes. But there other factors necessary for a long lasting, happy & stable relationship. Religious beliefs is one of them.

At the beginning of the relationship, the Religion factor may not be a stumbling block, problem comes when it’s time to level up, take the next step “MARRIAGE

Religion entails not only the belief on GOD either as a Muslim or Christian but also the belief on the non existence of GOD(Atheism).The issue here (Religion) encompasses the total lifestyle of an individual, dresscode, food even the time and ways of worshipping.

Things most people fear in Interfaith relationships include,

First, internal conflicts on the fear of first being converted from one’s standing faith.

Again on the resistance from the spouses family, especially if…

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Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day whispering, ‘I will try again tomorrow’. – Mary Anne Radmacher

How to Free Yourself from Your Personal Stories

To feel unworthy is to suffer. It feels like you’re flawed and must conceal your faultiness from others or risk being shunned. But concealing, pretending, and holding yourself apart from others tends to make you feel alienated and then interpret these feelings as proof that you’re flawed. This is a vicious cycle of self-doubts and self-judgments that separates you from others and prevents you from feeling whole and complete. Though you may be stuck in this self-concept, it’s far more arbitrary and malleable than you may think. Mindfulness and self-compassion allow you to see and acknowledge the tenderness and pain in your story without falling under the delusion that the story defines who you are. It may be your story, but it isn’t you.

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Learning occurs outside your Comfort Zone.

You need to speak in public, but your knees buckle even before you reach the podium. You want to expand your network, but you’d rather swallow nails than make small talk with strangers. Speaking up in meetings would further your reputation at work, but you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing. Situations like these — ones that are important professionally, but personally terrifying — are, unfortunately, ubiquitous. An easy response to these situations is avoidance. Who wants to feel anxious when you don’t have to?

But the problem, of course, is that these tasks aren’t just unpleasant; they’re also necessary. As we grow and learn in our jobs and in our careers, we’re constantly faced with situations where we need to adapt our behavior. It’s simply a reality of the world we work in today. And without the skill and courage to take the leap, we can miss out on important opportunities for advancement. How can we as professionals stop building our lives around avoiding these unpleasant, but professionally beneficial, tasks? Continue reading “Learning occurs outside your Comfort Zone.”

How to succeed in every aspect of your life.

A very common wisdom many people hold is that for well-being and reducing conflict and stress, you’ve got to take it easy with work & professional life and to focus in so called “things that really matters” (happiness, family and the likes). Conversely, to have a significant impact on the world and be successful by prevailing societal standards, and achieve merits you’ve got to put work above pretty much everything else in your life.That’s conflicting and confusing, especially for people who want it all , as this reasoning  is zero-sum thinking.

But Is it really true? that you can only get one at expense of other?

For the last three months i discovered that this “thinking”  runs counter to what I have observed from  over 30 biographies, talks and first hand interviews with people. There are many truly successful people in our midst who have achieved greatness not by forsaking their families, communities, and private selves, but, rather, by embracing these parts of their lives. They have found creative ways to reduce conflict and replace it with a sense of harmony between work and the rest of life. Not only does this reduce stress and its discontents, it is the very source of the strength that enables their admirable accomplishments.

Here is a truth on how to harness the passions and powers of the various parts of your life and bring them together to achieve what SD. Friedman call “four-way wins” — actions that result in life being better in all four domains, perhaps not all at once, but over the course of a lifetime.

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