To feel unworthy is to suffer. It feels like you’re flawed and must conceal your faultiness from others or risk being shunned. But concealing, pretending, and holding yourself apart from others tends to make you feel alienated and then interpret these feelings as proof that you’re flawed. This is a vicious cycle of self-doubts and self-judgments that separates you from others and prevents you from feeling whole and complete. Though you may be stuck in this self-concept, it’s far more arbitrary and malleable than you may think. Mindfulness and self-compassion allow you to see and acknowledge the tenderness and pain in your story without falling under the delusion that the story defines who you are. It may be your story, but it isn’t you.
Continue reading “How to Free Yourself from Your Personal Stories”
In case you missed the text, am already in medschool… well it is the thing i have wanted all my life i have been trying to achieve .. and yes i have 😀
Continue reading “MedSchool Tales: Someone Pinch Me!”
You need to speak in public, but your knees buckle even before you reach the podium. You want to expand your network, but you’d rather swallow nails than make small talk with strangers. Speaking up in meetings would further your reputation at work, but you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing. Situations like these — ones that are important professionally, but personally terrifying — are, unfortunately, ubiquitous. An easy response to these situations is avoidance. Who wants to feel anxious when you don’t have to?
But the problem, of course, is that these tasks aren’t just unpleasant; they’re also necessary. As we grow and learn in our jobs and in our careers, we’re constantly faced with situations where we need to adapt our behavior. It’s simply a reality of the world we work in today. And without the skill and courage to take the leap, we can miss out on important opportunities for advancement. How can we as professionals stop building our lives around avoiding these unpleasant, but professionally beneficial, tasks? Continue reading “Learning occurs outside your Comfort Zone.”
A very common wisdom many people hold is that for well-being and reducing conflict and stress, you’ve got to take it easy with work & professional life and to focus in so called “things that really matters” (happiness, family and the likes). Conversely, to have a significant impact on the world and be successful by prevailing societal standards, and achieve merits you’ve got to put work above pretty much everything else in your life.That’s conflicting and confusing, especially for people who want it all , as this reasoning is zero-sum thinking.
But Is it really true? that you can only get one at expense of other?
For the last three months i discovered that this “thinking” runs counter to what I have observed from over 30 biographies, talks and first hand interviews with people. There are many truly successful people in our midst who have achieved greatness not by forsaking their families, communities, and private selves, but, rather, by embracing these parts of their lives. They have found creative ways to reduce conflict and replace it with a sense of harmony between work and the rest of life. Not only does this reduce stress and its discontents, it is the very source of the strength that enables their admirable accomplishments.
Here is a truth on how to harness the passions and powers of the various parts of your life and bring them together to achieve what SD. Friedman call “four-way wins” — actions that result in life being better in all four domains, perhaps not all at once, but over the course of a lifetime.
Continue reading “How to succeed in every aspect of your life.”